Consider using one or more of the following to find a child to adopt:
- Private agencies - the wait may be up to 10 years, usually because prospective parents are looking for a newborn and/or Caucasian infant
- Public agencies - usually cheapest
- Independent - prospective adoptive parents deal directly with the birth mother
- Networking - Ensure your friends and associates know that you'd like to adopt and ask them to mention it to their friends and associates
- Advertising, e.g., newspapers
Get help with the process, e.g.:
- Lawyer (make sure you hire one that specializes in Adoptions, it makes it a lot easier and they will know the laws inregards to adoptions)
- Social worker (If you are using an agency, they will provide one for you)
- Adoption agency
Be aware that many children available for adoption from many foreign countries may have problems adapting to adoptive parents and may have various health problems, learning difficulties, etc.
- Do your research on the country that you are looking into
After finding a prospective child to adopt:
Get as much information as you can about the child's background - to help determine if the child might be violent towards you, have learning difficulties, have health problems, etc.
Determine how long the birth parents have to back out of the adoption - Research your state laws and the laws form the country that you are adopting from.
Be aware that adoptive parents can suffer from some depression similar to post-partum depression, due to the letdown from the anticipation and from being overwhelmed by the major changes in your daily routine. Introduce the concept of adoption to the adopted child in a warm and supportive manner
Keep assuring your adopted child that:
- He/she is not different from other kids
- He/she is secure and loved
If your adopted child asks questions relating to his/her birth parents and adoption and is younger than approx. age 4:
Listen to his/her question(s) carefully so you don't answer a question he/she didn't ask
Take the time to answer his/her question(s) carefully but honestly, although not in too much detail.
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